We proceeded with the anonymous donor process locally. It was surreal trying to make concrete decisions about what traits mattered to us in a donor. Certainly, we never consider our partner's distant family health status when you can just have sex to create a baby. We discussed, filled our forms & put our faith in the nurse to find a match.
Our team found a woman, willing and able to donate her eggs to us that matched our criteria. We were elated.
A day later, my 2nd cousin, Marie (pictured here) heard we were "in the market for some eggs". She offered to find out more about the process & I nearly dropped to the floor. She is a brilliant, healthy, kind woman who was studying law at the time. She was fully aware of the medical risks and psychological concerns. We tried to talk her out of it.
She said yes anyway. Her generosity overwhelmed us.